Updated: Oct 14
The Single Person’s Guide To The Holiday Season
The holidays can be a difficult time for single people. You’re surrounded by family and friends who are in relationships and often newly engaged, while you’re still searching for love (or even just a date). But that doesn’t mean there’s no joy to be found during this festive season. Here are some tips for making the most out of your single status this holiday season:
Find a distraction
If you’re feeling lonely, or if it’s just not the holidays for you, it’s okay to find a distraction. Distractions are great because they can give you something else to focus on instead of your loneliness. Try some of these:
Baking cookies with your mom and sisters
Cleaning out your closet and donating what doesn’t fit anymore
Going for a run in the rain (preferably wearing an ugly Christmas sweater)
Reading Harry Potter by the fireplace while sipping hot chocolate
Don’t be too hard on yourself
Don’t beat yourself up over being single. You’re single for a reason, and it’s probably not because you’re a terrible person or incapable of finding love.
Don’t compare yourself to other people. Everyone has their own circumstances, so trying to compare yours is bound to make you feel worse about your situation (not to mention that doing so might make the people around you feel awkward).
Don’t feel guilty about not spending time with family members who are in relationships or having children—it’s your prerogative if Christmas is just too much pressure for you!
Don’t try to explain yourself constantly by saying things like: “I’m just busy right now,” or “My friends are all married/have kids,” etc., especially if those things aren’t true! These types of statements can seem like an excuse when they really aren’t meant as one (and they may cause awkwardness). It’s up to each individual how they want their holidays filled; there isn’t anything wrong with choosing not have them filled at all!
Set the right expectations
Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, the holidays can be an emotionally taxing time of year. The pressure to make everything perfect for everyone around you can feel overwhelming. It’s important to remember that no one expects you to be perfect—not even yourself!
Here are some ways to set the right expectations:
Don’t expect too much from others. You might think that if your coworkers see how happy and contented you are, they’ll want whatever it is that makes them so satisfied with life. But don’t assume that people will automatically understand what makes you happy unless they have similar circumstances themselves.
Don’t expect to be the center of attention all day long—or even all week long! Holidays are a time when everyone wants their own space; spending time alone may seem foreign or even uncomfortable at first but after a while it becomes something we look forward towards doing every year once again (especially if there’s good food involved).
Keep your plans simple
Keep your plans simple.
Avoid over-scheduling yourself, especially if you have a tendency to get overwhelmed. Try to limit yourself to one or two social events per week, and don’t feel like you have to attend every gathering that’s thrown your way. Even if you’re not interested in what’s happening at any particular event, go anyway—it’s better than sitting home alone all night.
Be comfortable with being alone sometimes. You don’t need someone else around for anything except companionship or sex (and even then not always). If you’re feeling lonely or sad during the holidays, take some time just for yourself—go out for coffee or ice cream and read a book; take a bubble bath with some scented candles; wander through an art gallery or museum exhibit; watch Netflix!
Plan a daily routine.
Schedule time to relax and recharge.
Don’t schedule too much, but don’t leave too much time empty. Remember: you are not a machine!
Don’t forget to take care of yourself
The Holidays can be difficult for single people. Here are some tips for getting through
There are several things you can do to help alleviate the pain of being single during the holidays.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. You may feel like no one cares about you, but there is always someone who cares. If you are feeling lonely, try calling that friend or family member that has never let you down before and ask them if they would be willing to listen or give some support this holiday season.
Don’t forget that it is okay to ask for help when needed! Your friends care about you and want to see their favorite person happy during these special times of year so don’t be afraid to reach out when needed!
Don’t let your loneliness define who you are as a person – there are countless other ways for people around the world who will never know how truly wonderful life can be until experiencing this feeling themselves first hand; please remember this before getting upset about your own situation! Everyone goes through difficult times in their lives at some point but there is always an way out if we put our minds together instead of focusing on negative thoughts alone (i.e., those dreaded holiday blues). With positivity comes productivity meaning less time spent worrying about past mistakes instead focusing on making new ones today rather than tomorrow with focus on what matters most: caring relationships within our community even if those relationships aren’t romantic ones such as family members or close friends/ acquaintances amongst others throughout society whom share similar interests/ hobbies etcetera.
The holidays can be a stressful time for single people. It’s easy to feel lonely and maybe even sad as we think about what life would be like if we had someone special in our lives. But there are things you can do to make the holiday season more enjoyable, whether it’s going out with friends or staying busy with other activities that keep your mind off of being lonely. If you don’t want to spend Thanksgiving alone but don’t have any family nearby, consider inviting some friends over instead! Remember that even though being single during this time of year may feel challenging at times (especially when surrounded by couples), there will be many moments when it feels wonderful too—like when we see families coming together after months apart.” If you want to make an appointment at Revive Therapeutic Services to help treat your symptoms, click here.