Why Are Friends Important?

Since Sunday, August 3rd is National Friendship Day, let’s talk about something that matters more than we often realize: friendship. Friends are more than just people we laugh with, share hobbies with, or send memes to. True friendship is essential to our mental and emotional well-being—and science backs that up.

If you’ve been feeling the pull to reconnect with old friends, put yourself out there to meet new people, or deepen the friendships you already have, this is your sign to go for it. Why are friends important? What can you do to nurture them?

The Science Behind Friendship and Mental Health

Research consistently shows that people with strong social connections tend to be happier, healthier, and more satisfied with life. On the other hand, people who feel isolated or disconnected often face more serious health issues, both physically and mentally.

According to studies, a lack of fulfilling friendships can increase the risk of:

• Loneliness

• Anxiety and depression

• Chronic health conditions

• Premature death

That’s right—being disconnected can literally shorten your lifespan. Friendship isn't just a nice-to-have; it’s a key part of staying well.

Why Are Friends Important? Friendship Offers Safety, Comfort, and Laughter

In a recent episode of the podcast Good Hang, Amy Poehler and Kathryn Hahn discussed the power of friendship. Hahn shared:

“It’s so important to have women in your life who aren’t family to grow old with in a way that feels very honest... To be heard by another woman without judgment is such a comfort.”

This isn’t just about women. Emotional safety, nonjudgmental listening, and honest connection are the foundation of meaningful friendships for everyone.

Friendship Matters for Men, Too

While society often encourages men to “be strong” and independent, the truth is: emotional support is vital for everyone. A study found that between 1990 and 2021, the number of men with six or more close friends dropped from 55% to just 27%.

But here’s the thing—you don’t need six close friends to reap the mental health benefits. Even one or two meaningful friendships can make a powerful difference. Close friendships provide:

• A place to process stress, grief, or change

• Emotional support through life transitions

• A buffer against isolation and burnout

• A source of joy and belonging

How to Build and Maintain Friendships as an Adult

Let’s face it—adult life is busy. Between work, family, errands, and screen time, social connection often gets left behind. But friendship doesn’t have to be complicated. Here are three practical ways to nurture it:

1. Small gestures matter.

Text a friend just to say you’re thinking of them. Call someone on your commute home. Share a memory or inside joke. These little actions remind people they matter—and help keep the connection alive.

2. It’s never too late to make new friends.

Join a local club, take a fitness class, or try something new. Platforms like Meetup.com, your local YMCA, or community centers offer opportunities to meet people who share your interests. You may surprise yourself with how natural it feels to connect in new spaces.

3. Go deeper with the friends you already have.

If you feel lonely even around people, you might be craving more emotional intimacy. Try opening up—share something personal, show vulnerability, and really listen without judgment. Trust builds slowly, but honesty and presence go a long way.

Struggling With Friendship? You're Not Alone

If you find it hard to connect with others—or to maintain close friendships—you’re not broken. Mental health challenges like depression, anxiety, or trauma can make socializing feel overwhelming. But that doesn’t mean you’re stuck.

Talking to a therapist can help you rebuild confidence, improve communication, and process the fears or habits that might be holding you back from a deeper connection.

Reconnect With Others by Reconnecting With Yourself

Friendship starts with emotional wellness. If you're ready to improve your mental health—and in turn, your relationships—Revive Therapeutic Services is here to help.

We offer compassionate, personalized therapy for individuals across Rhode Island and Massachusetts. Whether you're looking to overcome loneliness, manage social anxiety, or strengthen your support system, we’re just a call or click away. Let this National Friendship Day be a reminder: you were never meant to do life alone.